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How to Manage Your Finances While Also Supporting Loved Ones

Have you ever wondered why airline flight attendants instruct you to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others?

It might seem selfish to put your own needs before the needs of your loved ones, but this rule is actually part of a broader philosophy: in order to help someone else, you need to be on firm footing yourself. This is especially true when helping someone financially.

If supporting your elderly parents forces you to take on debt just to make ends meet, you won’t be able to support them for very long. A careful, sustainable approach is the only way to make sure everyone’s well-being is accounted for.

That’s why we’ve put together some simple, practical strategies from financial experts who have been in this situation before.

Start a Budget

Anika Jindal of What Anika Says has been sending money to her husband’s parents for the past five years to help them pay off some debt from their struggling garment business. She and her husband plan to keep helping them until the debt is paid off, hopefully at the end of this year.

Jindal said having a budget has made it possible for the couple to stick to their own retirement goals and help her in-laws at the same time. Before they started sending money to his parents, their approach to budgeting was decidedly more lax.

“But once we decided we are going all-in to help them, we started preparing a monthly budget to make sure we are spending our money wisely,” Jindal said.

Discuss Problems Early

If you suspect that a loved one is having financial problems you might be able to help with, ask them about it sooner rather than later. Financial planner R.J. Weiss of The Ways to Wealth said he sees many people wait until they’re in dire straits before mentioning the severity of their situation. At that point, it can be incredibly difficult to help them.

Set up a time to talk and calmly ask about any problems you’ve noticed. Avoid being judgemental or critical, because that will usually lead to the other person becoming defensive. You want them to open up, not avoid the topic because they feel ashamed.

Build Your Emergency Fund

When taking care of a loved one, it becomes even more important to have an emergency fund in place because you’re responsible for someone besides yourself.

Take some time to re-evaluate your fixed expenses and determine if you need to increase your emergency fund. You may need to save 6 to 12 month’s worth of expenses instead of just the standard three-month recommendation. Caregivers often have to take unpaid time off work, so you should have enough to pay the bills during that time.

Evaluate Insurance Policies

If you’re financially responsible for another person, you may need to increase your own life insurance policy to protect them if you pass away first. Figure out the annual cost of care for that person and multiply this number by how many years they likely have left. If you already have a term life policy, you can contact the current provider and ask how to increase the total payout.

You should also consider buying a disability insurance policy in case you can no longer work, but still have to care for your loved one.

Start Saving for it Now

Financial educator Athena Lent of Money Smart Latina said she always knew she’d end up taking care of her dad at some point. But when he had a stroke last year, she realized that was going to happen sooner than she expected.

While he hasn’t had to move in with her yet, Lent has started preparing for the inevitable. She automatically saves a certain amount in a separate savings account every month to cover his future expenses.

“If you even think you might be in my shoes in the future, start saving and figuring it out now,” she said.

To make up how much she needs to save, Lent has worked on increasing income from her side hustle. Having another stream of income means she doesn’t have to worry about pinching pennies to make it all work.

Set Clear Boundaries

Before agreeing to help a relative, you should think about your own limits and how much you are willing to give up. Remember that your boundaries may change over time, like if you have a child or experience your own financial hardship. Both parties should be willing to revisit the arrangement in the future.

If your loved one moves in with you, you should also clearly agree on who will be responsible for which expenses.

“By having boundaries, you can say things to yourself like, ‘I’m willing to decrease the amount of saving for retirement for six months, but I’m unwilling to go beyond a point where I’m not able to get the full match on my 401(k),’” Weiss said.

Don’t Neglect Your Own Future

When supporting a loved one, try to remember the saying, “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”

As tempting as it may be to put your finances on the back burner, it’s important to still prioritize your own major goals. Remember, you won’t be able to borrow money for your own retirement.

Get a Tax Break

If you provide the majority of financial assistance for a loved one, you may be able to claim them as a dependent on your taxes. This can also make you eligible for a special tax credit worth up to $500.

This will only come into play if they don’t claim to be independent on their own tax return. They must also earn less than $4,300 a year, be unmarried and be a US citizen. Talk to a tax specialist if you’re unsure whether or not you can claim someone else as a dependent.

Find Outside Resources

Your loved ones may be eligible for financial help that could ease their burden. Contact a social worker who may be able to connect you with organizations that can help.

The Eldercare Locator site from the U.S. Administration on Aging has a list of resources available to elders and their caregivers. You can also contact your city’s United Way agency to be connected with other local agencies that provide specific support.

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